SUPPRESSION IS HELL.

Over the last few days I’ve come across various posts regarding men and why a lot of us suppress how we feel about just about anything. The fact of the matter is, at no point in modern history has it been ok for a man to speak his feelings in full without being chastised by either their partner or their counterparts. It’s almost forbidden. The truth is, men feel just as women do….but societal norms have created a phobia in just about every man to the point where they begin to question their own sanity when dealing with feeling anything. Not only do I think expression should be encouraged but, FULL expression should be encouraged amongst all people. Imagine being able to experience the relief that comes with releasing bottled emotions and or thoughts from a simple non-biased conversation. It’s blissful. You can honestly feel your body change and become more relaxed….now imagine being able to do that on a consistent basis with no worries. I know that’s a perfect world scenario but it’s also something that we have complete control over. Many people speak on being a safe space or even having a safe space but how many of them can say they’ve provided what they’ve been asking for? Not many I’m sure. Just as you see groups of women balling their eyes out from whether it be shared happiness over a life event or simple sympathy for someone who’s going through a challenging time, most time they walk away from that environment feeling somewhat better than they came in. We as men need the space and opportunity to do the same. Once the pressure from living under weird societal norms gets released…we begin to live fuller lives because we begin to become less tense and become more emotionally intelligent as well.