I’m definitely patting myself on the back, for my last post.
In regards to my previous post about the friendship dynamic in a relationship. I got a lot of really good feedback! A common thing I noticed was, people didn’t really notice how the variance in respect could effect the relationship prior to reading the post. To some loyalty is loyalty, to others their opinion is “my friends will be my friends forever, my spouse could leave at any given moment.” But how many time have you had a falling out with a friend over the smallest thing, and never spoke to them again? Or they may have done something you didn’t agree with and instead of checking them you let it slide? Why can’t you hold your friends to the same standards you hold your spouse to? I mean, they should be one in the same, correct?
So many times you see people, allowing their friends to do some of the dumbest stuff you can imagine. But don’t call them on it, all for the sake of friendship. And at the same time, will have your spouse damn near afraid to communicate with you because you harp on every little thing. Some may not see an issue with this, but I definitely do! There should be accountability across the board, if you want to consider yourself a person of respect. Also, being a nag will certainly put a strain on any situation. So when I say holding someone accountable, I mean holding them to a certain standard. A standard which should be based on your own personal values not your morals.
What’s the difference? A moral can either be accepted or not. Where as values are principles that you’ve deemed important. And because of their importance there is no wiggle room on acceptance. They’re literally the compass you use to guide you through every situation.
Respect. 