Connect or NEXT!

Bismillah

Not to come off cocky or full of myself but…in my life I can honestly say that I’ve turned down more cat than I’ve indulged in. And it all came down to one thing…if there’s no connection I don’t want it. To me having a certain type of connection makes everything that much better. Yeah, I could be like most people some of which I’m close to and knock down everything that comes my way but that ain’t me. To me that’ll cheapen the experience…there’s nothing like someone that can stimulate you mentally! That can not only make your mind wonder be also keep you in a learning state.

I always wondered why I got bored so easily and I could never figure it out but once I stepped outside of myself and really broke everything down to it’s core…I realized that i’m a thinker so my mind is always going. Now, on the flip side I wasn’t the best at keeping whoever I was with mentally stimulated either but that was a combination of being ignorant to the importance of it and not really caring about it. But at this point in life and going forward it’s more important than anything! I need to stimulate as much as I like being stimulated, it’s a definite give and take. To me there’s nothing sexier than a woman that can speak on various topics without missing a beat! Now when I say speak on various topics I don’t mean just ramble about a bunch stuff with no type of insight, I mean possibly teach something different about something I thought I already knew!

Now at the same time the base of any conversation is…COMMUNICATION my achilles heel lol. Normally, I’ll be cool with allowing them to carry the conversation and do all the question asking but I feel like I’ve been doing a better job at carrying conversations which has been making feel weird but I know it’s something I need to do or whatever lol. There’s definitely a different energy when there’s more back and forth as opposed to one side doing all the talking and feeling like there’s no mutual interest in the conversation. Something I never would’ve caught onto had I not sat and really looked into myself like I’ve been doing for the last two months! I probably would’ve been stuck in the same annoying ass cycle.

Besides, I was once told a long time ago “unlock a woman’s mind, she’ll be your’s forever! But be careful who’s you unlock!”And it took years for me to figure it out…like 34 of them to be exact lol. Like not until a few months ago lol. And just like anything else…now that I know better I’m obligated to do better! That goes for what I put out and what I’m willing to accept, because at the end of the day you attract who you are! So, in order for me to bring certain things into my life I have to be them! Plus, when that connection is all the way there…….the sex is through the roof!!